Just as predictably as the ball drops in Times Square as we greet the 1st day of January, people around the world will be using the fresh energy of a new year to set their resolutions. And just as predictably as the Valentine’s Day cards will appear in the stores on the 1st day of February, over half of all resolutions made will have already been broken.
Why do you think it’s so hard to stick to and to fulfill our New Year’s resolutions?
I believe it has to do with how we create them. To increase the possibility of fulfilling any resolution or intention, it needs to be created from the soul rather than from the ego.
When we begin to create all of our intentions from the soul, we’ll not only be more likely to achieve the individual intentions but we’ll start living a much more effortless flow in what I call “the Miracle Zone.”
You might be thinking, well, if that’s all it takes to achieve my resolutions, I’m happy to switch my angle of creation, but how do I know when I’m creating from the ego and when I’m creating from the soul?
The answer is stunningly simple: When we make choices from the realm of the ego, the feeling in our body is that of contraction, anxiety and fear and what manifests in our life is struggle. We feel like we’re always pushing, forcing, and over-efforting, and that we need to manipulate and control in order to get the results we desire. When we try to create from our ego, it’s always an up-hill battle because we’re living outside the Miracle Zone.
When we set our intentions from the soul, the experience is completely different because the realm of the soul is the realm of love, expansion, effortless flow, all possibilities and miracles.
So let’s make this more concrete.
Think about something you want to create in your life—some resolution or intention that you want to bring to fruition. If you’re like the majority of people, your New Year’s resolutions are to lose weight, get organized, make more money, spend more time with family and friends or begin a fitness regime. Do you have yours? Now write it down.
When you’re done, take a look at how you worded your resolution or intention. This reflects how you really “hold” it in your mind and heart.
If your intention is to lose weight and you wrote down, “Lose 20 pounds,” that is an ego-based intention. Your ego wants you to look a certain way. Maybe because you’re afraid of being judged or rejected or maybe you want to fit into society’s brainwashed definition of beauty or you’re having a hard time loving yourself the way you now look. Or maybe you want to “show” your old boyfriend what he so unwisely gave up…
Now let’s look at your soul’s version of that same intention.
Your soul wouldn’t think to say, “I want to lose 20 pounds.” Your soul would say, “I want to be fit, vital and healthy. I want to be in a body that reflects on the outside the radiant being I truly am on the inside.” Do you see the difference? Which feels better to you? Which one caused your heart to expand with truth and skip a beat with the anticipation of manifesting the result you desire? That’s a soul intention. It’s about aligning with the truth of who you are.
The desired results are the same but when you switch the angle of your approach, it puts you in the flow of universal energy. It opens you up to a greater force that allows things to happen with ease. You still need to take action, but when the action is taken with the power of a soul intention behind it, the path is paved with grace, and miracles begin to reveal themselves one after the other.
This year after you write your resolutions, go through the list and identify which ones are ego intentions and which ones are soul intentions. Think about how you can shift each one. If you get stuck, share this concept with a friend and help each other create the new angle so that every resolution is now a soul intention.
With your revised list in hand, step into 2021 and watch your miracles unfold.
Marci Shimoff is a #1 NY Times bestselling author, a world-renowned transformational teacher, and an expert on happiness, success and unconditional love. Her NY Times bestselling books Happy for No Reason, Love for No Reason and six titles in the Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul series have sold more than 16 million copies and are translated in 33 languages. She’s also a featured teacher in The Secret and narrator of the award-winning movie, Happy. She currently co-leads a global online program called Your Year of Miracles to help people live more miraculous lives.
Visit www.happyfornoreason.com to learn more about Marci.