Make it about the ‘We’ and Not the ‘Me’ for Career Success

Make it about the ‘We’ and Not the ‘Me’ for Career Success

When you make your career all about you, whether it’s in a positive light or a negative one, you reduce your potential to grow.

Many leadership consultants will tell you that being a leader is about the ‘we’ and not the ‘me’ philosophy. Career success is no different. After all, you are the leader of you and your own career, but it’s not just the role you have in getting to the next level, it’s also the people you involve along the way.

If there was one attitude adjustment I needed earlier on in my corporate career and business, it’s that I didn’t have to have it all figured out. That I didn’t have to have each and every detail mapped out before I took any action. I’m sure there were other adjustments I required, many of them as a matter of fact, but this attitude really caused a lot of stress in my life. Because I was caught in this wicked cycle of not knowing what I didn’t know and not being able to figure it out, I became a champion of overthinking, ruminating, and self-doubt.

Does this sound familiar to you?

When you make it all about you, whether it’s in a positive light or a negative one, you reduce your potential to grow. You miss out on opportunities that can lift you and support you to your next level of career by not allowing anyone else to be a part of it.

Instead of isolating yourself, brainstorm with other smart, savvy business professionals and possibly uncover the very solution you need or perhaps one even better. When you feel uncertain of your direction, reach out and allow others to point out your talents and gifts. These are the things you are naturally good at but may not be sure how to utilize. They can help. If you’re procrastinating, others can hold you accountable for your goals. There’s nothing like making a commitment to get it done and the deadline’s tomorrow, for some great motivation.

Are you playing small in your career? The right mentor can encourage and advise you to reach for more.

Do you get excited about an idea only to have your negative self-talk go on a rampage until you’re talked right out of it again? Have conversations with people who have tried it. They can share what worked and what didn’t so you’re not reinventing the wheel.

Quit the overthinking and ruminating and get clear on what is really important to focus on so that you are getting the results you deserve, just make sure you’ve got other people along for the ride.

This article first appeared at Debbie’s website HERE.

Debbie Peterson helps professionals get extreme clarity on what it takes to create career success on their terms! As a business keynote speaker, author, trainer, and coach, she helps organizations fill their leadership pipeline with high potential talent that reaches for and realizes success by harnessing the power of their thoughts.

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How Functional Medicine Is Failing to Treat Autoimmune Disease … Naturally

How Functional Medicine Is Failing to Treat Autoimmune Disease … Naturally

What is now the #1 chronic health problem in the United States? Hint: it’s notwhat you will find on the Internet: heart disease or cancer or diabetes or Alzheimer’s.

If you guessed autoimmune disease, you were right. Autoimmunity impacts more people than heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and Alzheimer’s combined. (In fact, all of these diseases are now actually classified under the umbrella of autoimmune disease!) (more…)

Recovering from Abuse

Recovering from Abuse

Last week I received an angry email from my dad, who was clearly triggered by something I had said the week before. Unfortunately, he didn’t express his hurt in a functional way, but did it in an abusive way. He told me he never wanted to speak to me again and said this email was “good-bye forever.” In other words, he threw me away because he was angry with me.

I am now old enough and have been around my father for over 50 years. I know that if I stay in my adult self and hold a good boundary with him, our relationship will repair. However, anyone who is co-dependent or lacks these tools would likely be triggered and wind up in a hormone imbalance, have their leaky gut aggravated, and potentially suffer from an autoimmune flare. I see it day in and day out in my practice. (more…)

‘Amazing Grace’ celebrates a legendary talent

‘Amazing Grace’ celebrates a legendary talent

“Amazing Grace” (1972 production, 2019 release). Cast: Aretha Franklin, Rev. James Cleveland, Alexander Hamilton, the Southern California Community Choir, Cornell Dupree, Kenny Luper, Poncho Morales, Bernard Purnie, Chuck Rainey, Rev C.L. Franklin, Sydney Pollack, Clara Ward, Mick Jagger, Charlie Watts. Directors:  Alan Elliott and Sydney Pollack. Web site. Trailer.

Some things are worth waiting for until the time is right. In some cases, that may mean waiting for a very long time. But, when the wait involves seeing a legendary artist at the peak of her career, it’s possible to overlook the delay. So it is with the long-awaited release of the historic performance piece, “Amazing Grace.” (more…)

Crafting Your Flexible Career to Match Your Lifestyle

Crafting Your Flexible Career to Match Your Lifestyle

This is an exciting time for working women!  We are exploring flexible career options this month with two brilliant authors, Flex Career Expert, Kathryn Sollmann and Encore Career Expert, Nancy Collamer.

I’ve been fortunate to have designed a flexible career both when my daughters were young, and later when my step-father and mother needed me to step in as the Designated Caregiver®. I actually built an office onto my home and saw clients there. I later moved back to the corporate office while my daughters were in school, but ten years later when I was  47, I retired from my financial planning career to work virtually from home again to launch Smart Women’s Empowerment and Smart Women’s Coaching so I could write, speak, and teach women how to create prosperity and while living their purpose.

If you want to spend more time with your children or be available for aging parents or an ailing spouse and feel that your only option is to take a hiatus from your career, think again!  Kathryn Sollmann says, “Any time out of the workforce comes at a big price:  a woman loses up to four times her salary each year she’s out of the workforce.”  As a financial advisor, I can attest to this. Kathryn will be sharing how time out of workforce it affects not only your Social Security, pensions, and retirement savings, but also your confidence and ability to get back into the workforce later. Kathryn will discuss many new options, so don’t miss her show!

If you’re planning for retirement or already at ‘retirement age’ but want to continue working—whether to supplement your income or to stay mentally and physically active—veteran career coach Nancy Collamer shows how to identify your favorite interests and expertise and repackage them into more than fifty ways to earn income.

I’ve always advocated that you want to retire to something rather than from something, by working at something you love during retirement — something where you can again make a difference, perhaps your legacy.  Plus, earning just $10,000 a year in your encore career is equivalent to having an extra $250,000 in your retirement account.  You may be thinking, “How can that be?”  It’s because you really shouldn’t be taking more than 4% from your portfolio if you want it to last for 30 years or more.  So you would need $250,000 earning 4% to provide you with an additional $10,000 in retirement income. Now ask yourself, which is easier:  Earning $10,000 doing something you love or trying to save another $250,000 so you can retire?

This is your chance to explore your options. It’s your opportunity to learn from two very smart women!  Get ready for some exciting shows.  Please help us share Smart Women with other women in your life.  Invite them to visit so they can receive this ezine and get free access to the Smart Women’s Academy!

Katana Abbott, CFP® practitioner, is a Wealth Coach™, host of the Smart Women Talk Radio™, founder of the Smart Women Companies with over 1 million subscribers globally, inspirational speaker and author of several books. She began her financial planning career in 1987 and became a Certified Financial Planner™ practitioner. In 2003, Katana created Smart Women’s Coaching® to offer financial coaching and educational workshops for women in transition who are dealing with caregiving, death of a loved one, divorce, retirement or looking to create or grow a business.  She founded Smart Women’s Empowerment in 2008 to bring free financial empowerment resources and programs to women around the world through her team of Contributing Experts. To learn more about Katana Abbott visit

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