Last week I received an angry email from my dad, who was clearly triggered by something I had said the week before. Unfortunately, he didn’t express his hurt in a functional way, but did it in an abusive way. He told me he never wanted to speak to me again and said this email was “good-bye forever.” In other words, he threw me away because he was angry with me.
I am now old enough and have been around my father for over 50 years. I know that if I stay in my adult self and hold a good boundary with him, our relationship will repair. However, anyone who is co-dependent or lacks these tools would likely be triggered and wind up in a hormone imbalance, have their leaky gut aggravated, and potentially suffer from an autoimmune flare. I see it day in and day out in my practice. (more…)
Sometimes Valentine’s Day is the worst. It’s a reminder of all you do not have in the love department. Sometimes it’s the best. It’s a time to celebrate the love you are enjoying in your relationship and in your life. And sometimes it’s confusing. It’s very confusing when you are in a relationship and are told you are loved, but don’t really feel loved. Is this the fault of the person who is professing their love for you in a way you cannot feel? Or is this your fault for not accepting their love just as it is demonstrated? (more…)
“Isn’t It Romantic” (2019). Cast: Rebel Wilson, Liam Hemsworth, Adam Devine, Priyanka Chopra, Brandon Scott Jones, Betty Gilpin, Jennifer Saunders, Alexandra Kis, Ray Anthony Lewis, Zach Cherry, Sandy Honig, Dean Neistat. Director: Todd Strauss-Schulson. Screenplay: Erin Cardillo, Dana Fox and Katie Silberman. Story: Erin Cardillo. Web site. Trailer.
What does it take to love someone? The answer may surprise you, as its origins actually stem from a source that might not be recognized at first glance. But making that realization is crucial if we ever hope to find that true love, an insight pursued in earnest in the delightful new romantic comedy parody, “Isn’t It Romantic.” (more…)
The holidays are often a time of great pain for people.
I see it in my clinic every year. There is the stress of trying to put together the perfect event, to look perfect, to be perfect. There is the stress of seeing family members that might be toxic. There is the stress of being surrounded by food and alcohol that will leave you overweight, inflamed, and exhausted if you imbibe in it. There is financial stress, schedule stress, work stress, and on and on and on. I have patients staggering into my clinic in January looking like they have been run over by a truck rather than uplifted with the joy of the season. (more…)
The beat pattern of the rain speeds up and calms down until it slackens to a slight drip-drop. The brittle fall leaves create precise rattle-sounds, rustling and shaking like a tambourine. Yet, the spring leaves birth fresh and soft rhythms, as they wave in the beat of the wind.
Invisible currents from animals running, moving insects, wings flapping overhead and even our own footsteps provide our own personal drumming circle. Just as we connect with others by joining a drumming circle and sharing the rhythm, nature joins with us in our own individual drumming circle. (more…)
“Disobedience” (2018). Cast: Rachel Weisz, Rachel McAdams, Alessandro Nivola, Anton Lesser, Bernice Stegers, Allan Corduner, Nicholas Woodeson, Liza Sadovy. Director: Sebastián Lelio. Screenplay: Sebastián Lelio and Rebecca Lenkiewicz. Book: Naomi Alderman, Disobedience. Web site. Trailer.
Getting what we want from life, especially in an area as critical as romance, may push us to our limits. We may find ourselves saddled with constraints that push back against us, thwarting our efforts and keeping us from fulfilling our objectives. But these conditions are often wholly arbitrary, capable of being overcome with the right degrees of determination and self-reliance, themes explored in the new romantic drama, “Disobedience.” (more…)